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Help Patients Achieve Optimal Vitamin D Levels
Much research has been done on vitamin D levels and their impact on health; optimal levels have been correlated with a reduced risk of developing numerous conditions.
Saying No to Medicine
An interesting article recently appeared in Men's Journal titled "When to Say No to Your Doctor." The article begins with the summary statement above and effectively arms readers with information that will help them "take more responsibility for your own health care, because you can't be sure anyone else is.
Simple Ways To Find True Happiness
Patients in our clinics are always seeking happiness. As their health advocate, we need to ensure we inform them that in order to find happiness, they have to make sure to identify what makes them happy in the first place.
The Tao of Gender
If you think gender is as simple as having a new client check off the "male" or "female" box on your intake form, we hope this article will expand your understanding and thus the reach of your health care.
5 Ways to Occupy Occupational Health
Despite the progress that has been made to better protect workers, occupational health and safety remains a priority area for many national governmental organizations due to the widespread problem of occupationally related morbidity and mortality.
Blaming the Gluteus Medius, Overlooking the Deltoid
The gluteus medius (Gmed) is commonly written about, strengthened and blamed for many conditions, and rightfully so. After all, the Gmed plays a role in pelvic stability, hip motor control and lower-quarter dynamic movements.
Understanding and Identifying Pediatric Growth-Plate Fractures
In general, fractures in children heal well with little intervention as long as the alignment is good. Fractures involving the growth plate, however, are a different issue. In fact, growth-plate injuries are the primary reason for the subspecialty of pediatric orthopedics.
Talking to Patients About Healthy Aging
I've noticed that a particular category of patients seems to make up more and more of my practice – they work out, but still experience lots of degenerative joint disease (DJD) issues.
Healing With TCM at San Quentin State Prison
For the prisoners at San Quentin State Prison, life-sentences are the reality of every day life. It is not often that prisoners get the opportunity to use alternative medicine to deal with common ailments they encounter behind bars such as, depression, anxiety and pain.
Jingei Diagnosis: An Effective and Powerful Diagnostic
I graduated from the Kotatama Institute under the direction of Drs. Masahilo and Katsuharu Nakazono in 1984. As a student, I was exposed to the practice of most of the various theories and modalites of Oriental Medicine.
Transparency and Accountability: Q&A With the CCE
Every profession needs an organization dedicated to upholding the quality and integrity of its degree programs and educational institutions.
To The Finish Line With the Help of TCM
When acupuncturist Eddy De Smedt pursued a career in Traditional Chinese Medicine, he knew he wanted to make a difference.
AOMA Strengthens Leadership Team
AOMA Graduate School of Integrative Medicine, a leading college of acupuncture & herbal medicine, announced the appointment of Donna LaPoint Hurta, MBA as the new VP of Finance & Operations this Fall.
Web Marketing: Content Is King
Google's sweeping updates to its search algorithms over the past few years have brought a paradigm shift in how you can optimize your chiropractic website to gain maximum marketing leverage.
Managing Patient Expectations About Acupuncture
Last year, I attended the Pacific Symposium in San Diego for the first time in six or seven years. It was the 25th anniversary of this event, and on one evening there was a panel discussion with the title; "What is Qi?."
Lime Jello on Morphine
Taste is in the eyes... actually the mouth... of the beholder. My food preferences have changed, lightening from the food of my youth. My parents loved heavy eastern European cuisine and I loved it as a child. Now I enjoy leaner, healthier whole foods.
Managing Today's Fertility Patient
I recently received an email from one of my fertility patients: "Got my lab results back. FSH is 11, AMH is 0.7. My doctor said these numbers aren't good. I guess I'm infertile. Just as a thought. Just set up an appointment to speak with an adoption agency."
The Heart Protector
On the physical level, the Pericardium is a double-layered sac of fibrous tissue that envelops the Heart. The space between the layers is filled with serous fluid that protects the Heart from external shock or trauma and lubricates to allow for normal Heart movement.
The Wonders of Light Therapy: An Interview with Wes Burwell
I first met Wes Burwell in 2011 when he was teaching a class on light. Since then, every time I hear him speak, his understanding of the benefits, function and capacity of light has evolved.
Pulse Diagnosis: What We Know
I am still finding pearls of wisdom from the books and papers that I inherited from my pulse diagnosis mentor Jim Ramholz.
The X Factor in Clinical Research: The Patient
It was the great baseball legend, former New York Yankees catcher Yogi Berra – he of countless aphorisms, each with a mind-bending twist – who once declared, "You can observe a lot by watching."
May, 2014, Vol. 14, Issue 05
Using Transactional Analysis to Speak "Client"
By Gerry Pyves
One of the most valuable things I learned when I trained as a Transactional Analysis Psychotherapist was to learn the difference between my "self" and the "other." This is particularly important in a therapy like massage which offers so many opportunities to "merge" with our clients.
By "merge" what I mean is to confuse what I am experiencing and thinking with what the client actually experiences. This sounds a bit obvious, doesn't it? However, one of the most common mistakes I witness in my training of massage therapists is precisely this problem. Many therapists pride themselves on their "sensitivity" and their "psychic" abilities, even. They simply love to prove their abilities by telling clients exactly what they notice about them and what their "energy" is doing.
Most of this is simply projection. We feel uplifted so we say to the client, "I notice how uplifted you are." In the power relationship of massage, the client is bound to agree. Occasionally, a client with a strong ego will simply walk out and not return as a result of such insulting and manipulative behaviour.
We must ensure it is the client's own experience they are describing in their own words. To do this, I invite the client to spend a few minutes lying on the table at the end of the treatment. This is so they have time to integrate the effect of the massage. Sometimes this is the most powerful therapeutic time of the treatment. Clients often report that they "let go" even more than during the bodywork itself. I leave the room so they really are in their own space for this phase.
The second part of this "integration phase" is when the client is dressed. Here, I still avoid chit chat and deflect the inevitable, "what did you notice?" game by simply asking the client to: "Walk around the table and notice how your body wants to walk after this treatment. Tell me anything you notice that feels different from this before you got on the table - if anything."
What is remarkable is that clients never say "Wow, I feel so myofascia-ed!" or "I feel like my iliopsoas is now so much longer!" Only massage therapists and professional bodyworkers talk such language. If clients really do speak this way, then they have been educated. What clients actually come out with, without such professional brain washing is, well, absolutely anything!
Learning From Our Clients
That is what makes it so exciting to actually listen to clients - I never know what will actually come out of their mouths. One client may walk like a zombie carrying lead weights on his feet and say, "I feel so light and free." They could not look less free or light if they tried. But who am I to say what my client actually feels or experiences internally? What is certain is this: everything I learned about the power of touch and massage came from the mouths of my clients. None of it can be found in the massage text books which, of necessity, only speak "bodywork." Yet, to really understand the immense power of massage, we really need to turn each client we massage into our teacher, by truly listening to their words.
Many therapists I know actually give a non-stop verbal commentary on what muscle is being released as they work. Now this is beyond the scope of practice, because it is hypnotherapy. Telling another human being what is happening in their body while they are in a semi-relaxed state and giving them suggestions is hypnotherapy. It is not ethical, in my opinion.
Only one person truly knows what the client is feeling in the treatment room, and it isn't the massage therapist. If you want to be a psychic, go get a velvet tent and a crystal ball. Otherwise let your clients have the space to find their own words for what they are feeling. When my clients "walk" after the treatment and are integrating their new body structure through the walk, I must bite my tongue and let them explore this new state of being.
What if they say, "nope, don't feel any different?" If there is not a convenient 8th floor window to throw yourself out of, you might just stay around and learn something. These "failures" are sometimes the most powerful teachings of them all.
You will not learn about massage from training courses. You will only learn about it from actual clients. if you bother to really listen to them and really want to know about them. All about them, not just their "physical" state. Know about them as human beings. You are not a bodyworker. The only place to find bodies without energy, emotion, mind and spirit is in the morgue or in bodywork text books. What you are, is a "human being worker."
The Best Marketing Tool
One of the great advantages of giving the client the chance to define their own reality in their own words, is how your clients walk out of your treatment room extremely clear about the value of coming for treatments with you. When they meet their friend for coffee after the treatment and they ask, "what have you been doing?" Your client replies, "I have just had a massage treatment and I feel six inches taller, so much lighter and ready to take on the world."
What just happened here? You just got yourself a new referral is what happened. Just from learning how to speak "client."
Gerry Pyves lives in West Yorkshire, in the United Kingdom. He holds an MA from Oxford University and qualified as a massage therapist in 1984. He became a UKCP registered Transactional Analysis psychotherapist in 1999. He is the founder and creator of NO HANDS® Massage. He is currently looking for instructors to teach NO HANDS® in the U.S. For more information, visit www.nohandsmassage.com.
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