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Getting Unstuck: Healing From Trauma With TCM, Qigong & Movement
We all come into this world vulnerable, with seeds to grow into our strength. Some of us — through a combination of good fortune (i.e., family and culture we are born into, constitutional inheritance, or ability to learn) grow with minimal interruption from traumatic injuries and experiences.
ICA Goes on the Vaccine Offensive
Have you watched the vaccination documentary, "Vaxxed: From Cover-Up to Catastrophe," by Andrew Wakefield MD, director, and Del Bigtree, producer? This is the documentary Robert DeNiro was pressured to remove from his Tribeca Film Festival.
The Large Intestine Official
The large intestine (AKA colon) is the great eliminator, or as J.R. Worsley called it, "The Drainer of the Dregs." Dregs are defined as the remnants of liquid with its sediment left in a container, or the basest, least valuable portion of anything.
Advancing the "Whole Organ" Spine Model
Historically, the human spine has been organized by body region utilizing specific anatomical landmarks and transition zones.
Waist Circumference: A Conversation Starter
New estimates suggest more than two-thirds of Americans are either overweight or obese. The medical significance of this statistic is astounding.
4 Things Every DC Should Know About Levels of Care & Prevention
As health practitioners, we help people with their health problems and assist them with health promotion and disease prevention.
Correcting Rib Dysfunction: Improve Patients' Pain, Posture and Breathing
As chiropractors, we tend to focus on the spine, and rightly so. Many problems our patients face can be corrected by manipulating the correct spinal level.
Gather & Grow
I recently attended a faculty seminar held by one of the acupuncture schools. There was a facilitator who led us through some very interesting experiences. The attendees were a diverse group with varying opinions.
Spiritual Initiation: Opening Your Higher Healing Abilities
People drawn to the field of acupuncture and Oriental Medicine tend to be those who march to the beat of a different drummer.
VF Works / DMX Works Epilogue: Almost Two Decades Later, the Lawsuits Continue
An article in the March 8, 1999 edition of Dynamic Chiropractic examined whether then-VF Works / Nu-Best Franchising was selling its franchises illegally to doctors of chiropractic.
Latest Cassidy Study on Stroke Risk Published
The latest study to investigate whether a unique association between chiropractic manipulation and risk of cervical artery dissection / stroke exists has yielded similar encouraging findings, with the authors noting "no excess risk of carotid artery stroke after chiropractic care" and no significant risk difference between patients receiving care from a DC or a primary care medical provider.
House Calls With Dad
My father was a chiropractor and he did house calls. On Wednesday nights, while my mother attended the weekly women's meeting at the Odd Fellows and Rebekahs hall in our small town, dad loaded up the portable adjusting table, fired up the Pontiac and drove off to treat a few patients in their homes. I went with him.
Reader Beware: Consider the Source
The aftermath of last year's presidential elections brought a running conversation on the role played by "fake news" that was largely presented via social media.
Near-Infrared Therapy for Diabetic Neuropathy
The pain experienced by people with diabetes is a symptom of diabetic neuropathy. The impact on quality of life is significant. Pain makes walking difficult, sleep troublesome, and eventually contributes to a decrease in social interaction.
Chiropractic in Texas Is Under Attack
The profession of chiropractic faces an unprecedented challenge in Texas, an attack that is more aggressive, sustained and dangerous than anything previously seen. The medical lobby has launched a coordinated, multi-front assault.
Treating the Lower Pelvis (Pt. 2): Midline Structures and Fascia
My previous article [October 2016 issue] outlined evaluation and treatment of pelvic issues involving the sacrotuberous ligament and the pubic symphysis. Now let's discuss two case studies that illustrate how to address additional problematic areas of the pelvis.
TCM & the Caregiving Population: Treatment Considerations & Our Vital Role
Informal caregiving is increasingly a reality for many Americans who find themselves providing unpaid care for a loved one or a family member with a long-term, terminal, or chronic illness.
A Brief History of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine Doctoral Programs
A doctorate in acupuncture and Oriental medicine has been a goal of the profession since its beginnings in the late 1970s. At that time, however, the maturity of the educational institutions and the regulatory environment made it a goal with only a distant completion date.
Paperwork Done Wrong, Done Right
I was visiting a doctor's office recently and a member of his staff brought a stack of forms to his private office and laid them on the doctor's desk. She informed him he needed to complete the forms for patients and a few third parties.
Helping Patients With Parkinson's Disease
Parkinson's disease (PD), a long-term degenerative disorder of the central nervous system that mainly affects motor function, has a slow onset over time.
News in Brief
The American Association of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (AAAOM) board members recently met with the Korean Customs Service, which is similar to the FDA, to discuss herbal safety and importation issues.
The Acupuncture Channel System (Part 2)
The primary channels (main channels) are introduced in chapter 10 of the Ling Shu, these channels are referenced in many chapters throughout the Su Wen and the Ling Shu. The primary channels have become the main channel system used in TCM.
September, 2012, Vol. 12, Issue 09
Cyrano, MT's and Losing the Fear of Rejection
By Cary Bayer
Recently, I caught David DiChiera's "Cyrano," a 2007 operatic version of my very favorite play from 1897, Cyrano de Bergerac, written by Edmond Rostand. If you're unfamiliar with this tragedy, set in Paris in 1640, it centers around the eponymous Cyrano, who's as much of a hero with the sword as he is a coward with expressing love.He's great at swordplay and wordplay, but pathetic at romance and love because he's insecure about his grotesque nose, virtually the size of his sword.
This play can be instructive for you if you're a licensed massage therapist. (It's too bad a DVD version of the film with the incomparable Jose Ferrer isn't screened over popcorn in massage training schools.) With his sword, Cyrano can slay a hundred men on a battlefield in France. With your hands, you can slay a hundred knots of tension on the battlefield of clients' bodies. But with his mouth, he freezes up in the presence of his beloved Roxanne. And you do this in your own way, too.
After teaching my "Build a $100,000 a Year Massage Business in Just 1 Hour a Day," course and privately coaching more than 125 LMTs, it's become painfully obvious to me that far too many of you freeze up in the presence of opportunities to promote your work. You become as tongue-tied in the face of a prospective new client as the usually poetic Cyrano does in the face of his true love. Rather than risk rejection, Cyrano doesn't attempt wooing Roxanne. Rather than risk rejection, far too many LMTs don't attempt wooing new clients. Oh sure, you'll hand out your business card. But do you ever risk the rejection of asking a prospective client for his? No. Why not? He may lose yours, and then you can kiss goodbye the possibility of him gaining relief on your table.
I've seen far too many therapists fail to book a massage at a party when a stranger says they could really use one. The fear that they might reject the offer to book stops the LMT in their tracks. Instead of asking the prospective client if they would like to schedule a session, the therapist takes another floret of broccoli and dips it into the guacamole. The person is hungry for relief from pain in their neck but, fearful that they might say no, the therapist is hungry for crudités.
The would-be client is denied healing relief, like Roxanne was denied Cyrano's healing love. The therapist is denied income that might result from this party guest becoming a new client. That could have been some $3,500 per year had they become a weekly client. The LMT is kept financially poor, much like Cyrano who wouldn't market his plays — partly because he couldn't abide the mediocre tastes of the publishing establishment of his day, and largely because he couldn't endure any rejection of his work.
Rather than risk rejection, many therapists fail to ask the simple question, "Would you like to schedule a session?" I know of LMTs who are afraid to book their clients' next sessions for fear that they'll say something like, "Let me call you when I'm ready." I know of far too many massage therapists who fail to ask existing clients if they'd like to purchase a package of treatments, even though they could save money. The fear of rejection again raising its ugly...nose.
The reason for these fears is a gross misunderstanding of the process of sales. If you ask a prospect if they would like to come in for a treatment, and they say, "No," they hasn't rejected you. They have simply taken a pass on having relief from pain today. The key words there are "you" and "today." They rejected your offer — to relieve them of their pain — today. They may not reject that offer tomorrow, if the pain increases. Making the distinction that their rejection is of an offer, and not of you, keeps you emotionally protected. This protection encourages you to take more risks and ask more people if they'd like to have sessions. That's because you have nothing to lose.
In the play, Cyrano sadly dies never having told his Roxanne that he loves her, even though it was his soul that she loved. Cyrano had extemporaneously written exquisitely beautiful poetry for a handsome young soldier whose face Roxanne had fallen in love with. The man was all looks and no books; he looked gorgeous, but spoke poorly. Cyrano, knowing that his beautiful beloved would never fall for someone as ugly as himself, wrote the poems to win the heart of his beloved for the young man. The hero was so terrified at the thought of competing against this handsome stud that he didn't even attempt it. Years later, when Roxanne finally discovered that the poetry that eventually won her heart was Cyrano's and not the pretty boy's, she confessed her love for him as he lay dying. Stubborn, proud and fearful to the very end, however, he refused to admit his love. His insecurities were deeper than some of the knots in the necks that you're asked to untwist.
Cyrano was a tragic hero of fiction. But it's no fiction that massage therapists are missing out on opportunities for new clients and new massage packages. Don't let yourself be a tragic statistic of the massage business. Don't take your talented hands away from your massage table and put them on a computer keyboard in some nameless office so that you have a secure way to pay your bills. Roxanne always loved Cyrano, but he was too scared to find that out. People love what you do with your hands; don't be too scared to ask them if they'd like a session.
Click here for previous articles by Cary Bayer.
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