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Branding: Set Your Practice Apart
Dr. Brad started his practice seven years ago on a shoestring budget. He created his generic logo in five minutes using a website because he didn't have the time to figure out how to make something special.
Can a Multivitamin Reduce Breast Cancer Recurrence?
There is a great deal of controversy regarding the value of multivitamin supplements in cancer prevention. However, with respect to preventing breast cancer recurrence, an important study was published in the Journal of Breast Cancer Research and Treatment in 2011 by Kwan ML, et al.
6 Steps to Make 2017 Your Best Year Yet
People often ask me what defines success. Success, for me, is simple: doing exactly what you want to do in life. Whether it's the kind of practice you run, your life at home, your hobbies or something else, it's achieving anything you put your mind to.
DVT: Know the Signs and You Could Save a Life
I lost a friend several months ago. He died from a pulmonary embolism (PE) secondary to a deep-vein thrombosis (DVT) that originated in his lower leg. Bobby was in his mid-60s, soft-spoken and had a big heart.
Dedicated to Defending Chiropractic
Whether you're a veteran DC or a first-trimester student, the name George McAndrews should be part and parcel of your professional vernacular, as familiar as the word chiropractic.
A Simple Protocol for Holiday Stress
It's winter, a time when we should be deep in reflection, eating warming foods and sleeping long hours. Following nature's rhythms, we restore our bodies and minds in preparation for the renewal of spring.
All Fiber Is Not Created Equal
Sometimes the best place to start is at the end. So, the conclusion of this article is that all fiber is good ... but some fiber is better. Let's break it down. There are two main types of fiber: soluble fiber and insoluble fiber.
News in Brief
New President / CEO Takes Office at Yo San University. Electroacupuncture for Constipation?
Overuse Injuries in Young Athletes (Pt. 2)
Most overuse injuries are benign, but there are some high-risk injuries that, if unrecognized or inappropriately treated, can result in significant loss in time from the sport or even require leaving the sport.
Meshing TCM With Environmental Pediatrics: Where's the Overlap?
Pediatrics has a long history within Chinese medicine dating back to the late Han dynasty (i.e., the late 200s CE), with the two primary areas of emphasis being herbal medicine and xiao er tui na (pediatric massage).
2016: A Year in the Life of Acupuncture
Happy Holidays, may you, your family and friends have peace, joy and blessings throughout this special time of year. As 2016 comes to a close, we can look back and celebrate the many events and accomplishments for the profession of acupuncture.
A First for the Profession: CCE Accredits First Chiropractic Residencies
The Council on Chiropractic Education (CCE) has awarded accreditation to all five chiropractic residency programs currently administered at Veterans Administration facilities, "the first residency programs in the nation ever to be awarded this distinction, a significant advancement in the evolution of chiropractic education," according to a VA press release announcing the milestone.
End of an Era Looms at NYCC
New York Chiropractic College recently announced that Dr. Frank Nicchi will retire in August 2017 after 36 years with the college, the past 17 as president.
A Q & A About Updated Codes
Yes, indeed there was an update to ICD-10 on Oct.1, 2016. This is a regular update to the diagnosis coding system and this type of update will occur every Oct. 1, just as it did when the ICD-9 system was in place.
Little Sticker, Big Impact
It's the end of an election year. Hilary Clinton and Donald Trump were the subject of conversation for everyone, everywhere for the entire 2016 calendar year. I don't think any of us can deny that this election affected us all very deeply on a personal level.
A Letter to the Profession from the New President at AAAOM
Volunteering for a national, nonprofit organization brings with it such highs, lows, and accomplishments, as well as a steep learning curve.
Southwest Acupuncture College Brings It to Division 1 Athletes
When Michael Phelps' photograph with the distinctive round marks left by cupping went viral, the Division 1 student athletes treated through the Dal Ward Athletic Center at the University of Colorado (CU) could relate.
Assessing Core Stability and ROM: 5 Basic Checks
One of the first steps in addressing core stability is assessing static posture, ranges of motion, and motion of the pelvic bones, sacrum, femurs, lumbar spine and thoracic spine.
Another Chance to Make a Difference
Just a few months ago, "the worst natural disaster to strike the United States since Hurricane Sandy" hit Louisiana. During this storm, one area experienced 31 inches of rain in 15 hours as almost 7 trillion gallons of water rained down in just one week across the state.
Molecular Motors: Tiny Machines Behind the Rhythm of Life
In the clinic, we aim to restore healthy patterns of movement for qi that has gotten trapped or misdirected, or may have even collapsed. We may be focused on freeing stagnation, releasing heat or redirecting counterflow qi, but it often comes down to helping re-establish a flow of sorts.
Chiro School Reunion: Whatever Happened to...?
I opened the door to the closet slowly, carefully, since I knew it contained a large number of precariously stacked file boxes. It also held numerous outdated gizmos with electrical cords of various lengths that could trip or strangle a person.
Herbs for Digestion: The Power of Bitter
Many cultures (and indeed herbal clinicians) around the world have long respected the role of bitter herbs and foods for promoting digestion. For example, aperitifs – drinks consumed before a meal to stimulate appetite and digestion – were originally derived from bitter herbs.
September, 2012, Vol. 12, Issue 09
Cyrano, MT's and Losing the Fear of Rejection
By Cary Bayer
Recently, I caught David DiChiera's "Cyrano," a 2007 operatic version of my very favorite play from 1897, Cyrano de Bergerac, written by Edmond Rostand. If you're unfamiliar with this tragedy, set in Paris in 1640, it centers around the eponymous Cyrano, who's as much of a hero with the sword as he is a coward with expressing love.He's great at swordplay and wordplay, but pathetic at romance and love because he's insecure about his grotesque nose, virtually the size of his sword.
This play can be instructive for you if you're a licensed massage therapist. (It's too bad a DVD version of the film with the incomparable Jose Ferrer isn't screened over popcorn in massage training schools.) With his sword, Cyrano can slay a hundred men on a battlefield in France. With your hands, you can slay a hundred knots of tension on the battlefield of clients' bodies. But with his mouth, he freezes up in the presence of his beloved Roxanne. And you do this in your own way, too.
After teaching my "Build a $100,000 a Year Massage Business in Just 1 Hour a Day," course and privately coaching more than 125 LMTs, it's become painfully obvious to me that far too many of you freeze up in the presence of opportunities to promote your work. You become as tongue-tied in the face of a prospective new client as the usually poetic Cyrano does in the face of his true love. Rather than risk rejection, Cyrano doesn't attempt wooing Roxanne. Rather than risk rejection, far too many LMTs don't attempt wooing new clients. Oh sure, you'll hand out your business card. But do you ever risk the rejection of asking a prospective client for his? No. Why not? He may lose yours, and then you can kiss goodbye the possibility of him gaining relief on your table.
I've seen far too many therapists fail to book a massage at a party when a stranger says they could really use one. The fear that they might reject the offer to book stops the LMT in their tracks. Instead of asking the prospective client if they would like to schedule a session, the therapist takes another floret of broccoli and dips it into the guacamole. The person is hungry for relief from pain in their neck but, fearful that they might say no, the therapist is hungry for crudités.
The would-be client is denied healing relief, like Roxanne was denied Cyrano's healing love. The therapist is denied income that might result from this party guest becoming a new client. That could have been some $3,500 per year had they become a weekly client. The LMT is kept financially poor, much like Cyrano who wouldn't market his plays — partly because he couldn't abide the mediocre tastes of the publishing establishment of his day, and largely because he couldn't endure any rejection of his work.
Rather than risk rejection, many therapists fail to ask the simple question, "Would you like to schedule a session?" I know of LMTs who are afraid to book their clients' next sessions for fear that they'll say something like, "Let me call you when I'm ready." I know of far too many massage therapists who fail to ask existing clients if they'd like to purchase a package of treatments, even though they could save money. The fear of rejection again raising its ugly...nose.
The reason for these fears is a gross misunderstanding of the process of sales. If you ask a prospect if they would like to come in for a treatment, and they say, "No," they hasn't rejected you. They have simply taken a pass on having relief from pain today. The key words there are "you" and "today." They rejected your offer — to relieve them of their pain — today. They may not reject that offer tomorrow, if the pain increases. Making the distinction that their rejection is of an offer, and not of you, keeps you emotionally protected. This protection encourages you to take more risks and ask more people if they'd like to have sessions. That's because you have nothing to lose.
In the play, Cyrano sadly dies never having told his Roxanne that he loves her, even though it was his soul that she loved. Cyrano had extemporaneously written exquisitely beautiful poetry for a handsome young soldier whose face Roxanne had fallen in love with. The man was all looks and no books; he looked gorgeous, but spoke poorly. Cyrano, knowing that his beautiful beloved would never fall for someone as ugly as himself, wrote the poems to win the heart of his beloved for the young man. The hero was so terrified at the thought of competing against this handsome stud that he didn't even attempt it. Years later, when Roxanne finally discovered that the poetry that eventually won her heart was Cyrano's and not the pretty boy's, she confessed her love for him as he lay dying. Stubborn, proud and fearful to the very end, however, he refused to admit his love. His insecurities were deeper than some of the knots in the necks that you're asked to untwist.
Cyrano was a tragic hero of fiction. But it's no fiction that massage therapists are missing out on opportunities for new clients and new massage packages. Don't let yourself be a tragic statistic of the massage business. Don't take your talented hands away from your massage table and put them on a computer keyboard in some nameless office so that you have a secure way to pay your bills. Roxanne always loved Cyrano, but he was too scared to find that out. People love what you do with your hands; don't be too scared to ask them if they'd like a session.
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