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Identify & Adjust the Apex Posterior Sacrum
Low back pain involving an apex posterior sacrum (+θX-axis misalignment) typically presents with signs of lumbosacral joint impingement or facet syndrome.
The Rest of the Patient Story
I've written previously about allowing a patient to tell you their story – about taking the time to listen and engage all the aspects of their case history, the injury in question, and the related issues.
Roots in the Community, Branches Far Beyond
The Jung Tao School of Classical Chinese Medicine (JTS) was founded in 1998 by Sean Christian Marshall in Sugar Grove, North Carolina, a small community near Boone in the state's westernmost mountains.
The Value of Melatonin in Breast Cancer Prevention and Adjunctive Treatment
Although melatonin (MLT) is best known for its sleep-aid properties and as a natural remedy to prevent jet lag, extensive experimental studies suggest it possesses anticancer activity through several biological mechanisms.
F4CP Launches New Social Media Campaign
The Foundation for Chiropractic Progress has launched a new service to help member doctors: a social media campaign called "Accelerator."
Excited to Share the Science of Chiropractic: An Interview With Dr. Heidi Haavik
Dr. Heidi Haavik has become known in the circle of chiropractic researchers as not only a rising star, but also one willing to do research that can have a major impact in the scientific world and how chiropractic is perceived.
An Alarming Lack of Accountability
Accountability seems to be a lost quality today. The simple act of taking responsibility and doing the right thing just doesn't happen as often as it should. Maybe it is the litigious nature of our society.
Day in the Life of an Advanced-Practice DC
Can you tell us a little about your background in the profession? Why did you want to become a DC? I studied at Boston University from 1968-1972 as a pre-med student majoring in biology.
Transparency is Key at ASA First Annual Meeting
On March 4th and 5th the American Society of Acupuncturists (ASA) held a successful first annual meeting in Albuquerque, New Mexico.
News in Brief
Northwestern Student Honored for Addressing Concussions Head-On; Northwestern Announces New CFO; Life U. to Provide Unique Opportunity.
Let's Streamline Your Front Desk
Your front office can be your greatest source of efficiency or a constant bottleneck. Increasing the productivity of this area without sacrificing the quality of patient interaction can be a little tricky.
Asking Patients the Right Questions
When was the last time you asked a patient a question? Maybe 30 seconds ago? But, are you asking the right questions to elicit valuable and useful information? As a healthcare provider, you've likely spent hundreds of hours learning to ask the right questions to gather critical health information from your patients.
Misconceptions & Opportunities With Medicare
As I speak around the country on how to properly document Medicare patient encounters, I get questions regarding opting out of Medicare. There are many misconceptions about opting out of Medicare, including just what it means to opt out.
Building Relationships and Referral Networks with Allopathic Practitioners
Dr. Doug, an orthopedist of 20 years, had heard stories from patients who tried acupuncture. While he was able to address many of their complaints effectively, some appeared to gain additional benefit when their care included TCM.
Health and Wellness Partnership
Yo San University of Traditional Chinese Medicine and The Wellness Center at the LAC + USC Historic General Hospital recently joined forces to extend care to the residents of Boyle Heights area of Los Angeles.
Constructing Our Reality: The Primary Channels and Perception, Part 1
My favorite topic of discussion within Chinese medicine is the acupuncture channel systems. First of all, each of us have them. They are part of our bodies; not something external to us. To learn about the acupuncture channels is to learn about ourselves.
The Art of Listening
One of the most important clinical concepts for me was voiced by the legendary physician William Osler. "Listen to your patient, he/she is telling you the diagnosis." After treating literally thousands of patients, it can become almost second nature to quickly discover clues which reveal the underlying diagnosis.
Filling the Gap: The Role of Alternative Practitioners in a Broken Health Care System
I have been asked many times what got me into alternative medicine. My answer is simple: I want to truly help and make a difference in people's health.
An Interview with Amanda Shayle
JW: Can you share with us some of your history and how you became an acupuncturist? What did you do prior to becoming an acupuncturist? Where did you go to school?
NCCAOM Launches New Membership Organization
The National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM) recently launched a new national membership organization, the NCCAOM Academy of Diplomates.
How Many of Your Patients Have Sarcopenia?
Figure 1 demonstrates the typical appearance of sarcopenia in the paravertebral muscles. Have you considered evaluating your patients for this problem? Sarcopenia is the progressive loss of skeletal muscle mass and function that affects the older population.
Energy: For Life and For Death
Energy is a deep topic in Traditional Chinese Medicine. Qi is understood to underlie all of existence, animated or not, and the qi of the living is studied with special attention.
Specialized Pro-Resolving Mediators: 21st Century Inflammation Fighters
Specialized pro-resolving mediators, or SPMs, are a portion of the omega-3 fatty-acid spectrum that have been shown to have a powerful effect on reducing inflammation.
Designing a Fitness Plan (Part 4): Blending Pain Relief With Healthy Aging
Pain relief is still the No. 1 reason patients come to my office. However, most of my patients have other goals as well, such as: "I want to lose 10 to 20 pounds"; "I feel old and want to slow down the aging process"; "My doctor says I am becoming a diabetic and need to exercise"; or "I'm tired and want more energy."
September, 2012, Vol. 12, Issue 09
Cyrano, MT's and Losing the Fear of Rejection
By Cary Bayer
Recently, I caught David DiChiera's "Cyrano," a 2007 operatic version of my very favorite play from 1897, Cyrano de Bergerac, written by Edmond Rostand. If you're unfamiliar with this tragedy, set in Paris in 1640, it centers around the eponymous Cyrano, who's as much of a hero with the sword as he is a coward with expressing love.He's great at swordplay and wordplay, but pathetic at romance and love because he's insecure about his grotesque nose, virtually the size of his sword.
This play can be instructive for you if you're a licensed massage therapist. (It's too bad a DVD version of the film with the incomparable Jose Ferrer isn't screened over popcorn in massage training schools.) With his sword, Cyrano can slay a hundred men on a battlefield in France. With your hands, you can slay a hundred knots of tension on the battlefield of clients' bodies. But with his mouth, he freezes up in the presence of his beloved Roxanne. And you do this in your own way, too.
After teaching my "Build a $100,000 a Year Massage Business in Just 1 Hour a Day," course and privately coaching more than 125 LMTs, it's become painfully obvious to me that far too many of you freeze up in the presence of opportunities to promote your work. You become as tongue-tied in the face of a prospective new client as the usually poetic Cyrano does in the face of his true love. Rather than risk rejection, Cyrano doesn't attempt wooing Roxanne. Rather than risk rejection, far too many LMTs don't attempt wooing new clients. Oh sure, you'll hand out your business card. But do you ever risk the rejection of asking a prospective client for his? No. Why not? He may lose yours, and then you can kiss goodbye the possibility of him gaining relief on your table.
I've seen far too many therapists fail to book a massage at a party when a stranger says they could really use one. The fear that they might reject the offer to book stops the LMT in their tracks. Instead of asking the prospective client if they would like to schedule a session, the therapist takes another floret of broccoli and dips it into the guacamole. The person is hungry for relief from pain in their neck but, fearful that they might say no, the therapist is hungry for crudités.
The would-be client is denied healing relief, like Roxanne was denied Cyrano's healing love. The therapist is denied income that might result from this party guest becoming a new client. That could have been some $3,500 per year had they become a weekly client. The LMT is kept financially poor, much like Cyrano who wouldn't market his plays — partly because he couldn't abide the mediocre tastes of the publishing establishment of his day, and largely because he couldn't endure any rejection of his work.
Rather than risk rejection, many therapists fail to ask the simple question, "Would you like to schedule a session?" I know of LMTs who are afraid to book their clients' next sessions for fear that they'll say something like, "Let me call you when I'm ready." I know of far too many massage therapists who fail to ask existing clients if they'd like to purchase a package of treatments, even though they could save money. The fear of rejection again raising its ugly...nose.
The reason for these fears is a gross misunderstanding of the process of sales. If you ask a prospect if they would like to come in for a treatment, and they say, "No," they hasn't rejected you. They have simply taken a pass on having relief from pain today. The key words there are "you" and "today." They rejected your offer — to relieve them of their pain — today. They may not reject that offer tomorrow, if the pain increases. Making the distinction that their rejection is of an offer, and not of you, keeps you emotionally protected. This protection encourages you to take more risks and ask more people if they'd like to have sessions. That's because you have nothing to lose.
In the play, Cyrano sadly dies never having told his Roxanne that he loves her, even though it was his soul that she loved. Cyrano had extemporaneously written exquisitely beautiful poetry for a handsome young soldier whose face Roxanne had fallen in love with. The man was all looks and no books; he looked gorgeous, but spoke poorly. Cyrano, knowing that his beautiful beloved would never fall for someone as ugly as himself, wrote the poems to win the heart of his beloved for the young man. The hero was so terrified at the thought of competing against this handsome stud that he didn't even attempt it. Years later, when Roxanne finally discovered that the poetry that eventually won her heart was Cyrano's and not the pretty boy's, she confessed her love for him as he lay dying. Stubborn, proud and fearful to the very end, however, he refused to admit his love. His insecurities were deeper than some of the knots in the necks that you're asked to untwist.
Cyrano was a tragic hero of fiction. But it's no fiction that massage therapists are missing out on opportunities for new clients and new massage packages. Don't let yourself be a tragic statistic of the massage business. Don't take your talented hands away from your massage table and put them on a computer keyboard in some nameless office so that you have a secure way to pay your bills. Roxanne always loved Cyrano, but he was too scared to find that out. People love what you do with your hands; don't be too scared to ask them if they'd like a session.
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