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August, 2008, Vol. 08, Issue 08

Is a Miserly Money Mantra Shortchanging Your Practice?

By Sharon Desjarlais, CC; guest author for John Upledger, DO, OMM

Editor's note: Dr. John Upledger has asked guest author Sharon Desjarlais to write this month's column.

Are you a good therapist struggling to earn what you're worth? You might have a "money mantra" running through your mind that's hurting your income potential.

I was 7 years old when I inherited a faulty belief about money that ruled my life for the next 20 years. It was late on a humid summer night in South Florida. I should have been asleep, but I was far too excited. Under my head lay my pillow that protected precious treasure - a milky white, niblet-sized tooth that had popped out of my mouth earlier that day. The tooth fairy would soon be swooping in to surprise me with money. Maybe even a shiny new quarter! I was shivering with excitement when my bedroom door slid open. I squeezed my eyes shut, knowing the fairy might flutter away if I blew the exchange.

My heart was jumping as I sensed the mysterious being glide closer to my bed. When I couldn't stand it a moment longer, I cracked my eyelids ever so slightly and was stunned. There was my grandfather, tugging a silver coin from the pocket of his golf pants and slipping it under my pillow. Though I didn't tell anyone what I saw, that one small incident already began to make a monumental impact on my life. When I witnessed my grandfather giving his money to me, I formed a mantra that said: "When I have more money, someone else has less." I had no idea this tape was running through my mind until years later when I realized the more money I earned, the guiltier I felt. Unconsciously, I had been soothing myself by making just enough money to scrape by.

Programming the Software of Your Subconscious Mind

As a therapist, you might know a good bit about the brain, but when it comes to the beliefs governing your life, it's all about the mind. While the conscious mind is the part we use to think and choose, the subconscious mind is the storehouse of our experiences. It takes the beliefs we lodge in it and projects them into our lives so we end up replaying the same themes again and again in one form or another.

In The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, author Joseph Murphy, PhD, DD, writes: "The most important point to remember is this: Once the subconscious mind accepts an idea, it begins to execute it. It is an astonishing and subtle truth that the law of the subconscious mind works for good and bad ideas alike.

"Whatever you claim mentally and feel as true, your subconscious mind will accept and bring forth into your experience. All you have to do is get your subconscious mind to accept your idea. Once that happens, the law of your subconscious mind will bring forth the health, peace and prosperity you desire."

When I recognized the effects my old money mantra was having on my life, I chose to create a new belief. I decided: "The more money I make, the more I enrich others as well." I knew just thinking this new thought wasn't enough and set out to collect evidence it was true. As I did, my outer circumstances slowly shifted to match my new mantra. The next year, my marketing projects netted one company more than $3 million and I started making a healthy income.

Now, 24 years later, I specialize in helping CranioSacral therapists shift their outworn mantras into productive beliefs that help them fill their practices. Susan Hovey Cohen is an example of a therapist who successfully reframed her money mantra. Together we discovered she had a belief that said, "When I succeed, it makes other people unhappy."

After realizing she had been holding herself back in her practice because of this thought, she concluded her mantra had to change. So she crafted a new one she felt she could believe: "Sometimes when I am successful, other people are happy." I encouraged Susan to record her new belief over her cellular structure by saying it out loud each day while focusing on how she would feel when other people celebrated her success.

By sending her mantra into the atmosphere, she was literally impressing it into matter by creating sound waves. Then as it came full circle from her lips to her ears, she absorbed it all over again. We also set out to help her root her new belief in reality. Together, we crafted a systematic plan to grow her practice. As she followed the process, one of her tasks was to look for evidence her new mantra was true.

Before long, I began getting e-mails from Susan expressing how many positive changes were taking place in her practice. Friends she had once treated for free insisted on paying her. She began attracting more of her ideal clients and selling more gift certificates. And she started to feel like she was loveable and deserving of success. "My new mantra helped me in more ways than I ever imagined," Susan said. "For instance, one client recently commented on how healthy and slim I looked. I told her I'd been working with a gifted nutritionist. A couple weeks later she came to her session with a birthday gift for me. 'You just had to have this skirt,' she said, 'to celebrate reaching your ideal weight.' Her generosity brought tears to my eyes. And this is just one experience out of dozens that helped me see the power of choosing beliefs that serve me in positive ways."

How Well Is Your Money Mantra Working for You?

How can you tell if your subconscious mind is projecting a healthy money mantra? Look at the results in your life. If you find yourself feeling shortchanged, give your subconscious mind an assignment. Ask yourself, "What's the first memory I can recall about money?"

Do that for a week or so. For added impact, ask the question as you drift off to sleep. Then the next day, pay close attention to any inklings and memories that pop up. Once you discover your earliest money memory, ask yourself what message you took away as a result. Is it positive and empowering? You're more than welcome to keep it. But if it's uncomfortable and limiting, you get to select a more productive message. What would you rather experience around the issue of money? Choose a new belief that brings you feelings of prosperity and joy. Then create some new evidence. With a sound money mantra, you'll reap the rewards for years to come.


Click here for previous articles by John Upledger, DO, OMM.

Click here for more information about Sharon Desjarlais, CC.

 

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