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What's New in Phytonutrition: Mangifera Indica, "The King of Fruits"
One hundred percent pure Indian green mango fruit (mangifera indica), harvested at a special degree of ripeness for efficacy and taste, can now be concentrated as a phytonutrient nutraceutical powder.
Beating the Odds: Interview With Para-Powerlifter Adeline Dumapong-Ancheta
Since October 2015, the FICS Foundation, the charitable organization affiliated with the International Federation of Sports Chiropractic (FICS), has been supporting disabled athletes internationally.
An MD Who Understands the Opioid Epidemic
Doctors of chiropractic have an important role to play in ending the opioid epidemic and dealing with chronic pain by conservative means (see our top story in this issue) – but who's to blame for opioid dependence and abuse in the first place?
Sit or Stand? Analyzing a Mixed Message
I'm more than a bit confused. At my age, that seems to be a rather common occurrence. However, today more than ever, I'm getting a mixed message.
The Pertinent Negative
We all have to perform evaluations on patients. Most of us don't like doing it – exams take time, and worse it takes even more time after the evaluation to put together a narrative summary of the findings. Sometimes, this process becomes downright tedious.
Chronic Pain: Become Part of the Solution
I have lectured to more than 7,000 chiropractic physicians over the past five years regarding the chronic pain and opioid epidemic in this country.
Tai Chi Documentary Premier
First Run Features recently announced the world theatrical premiere of Barry Strugatz's documentary The Professor: Tai Chi's Journey West, which premiered last month at the Laemmle Music Hall in Los Angeles.
Three Tips to Help You Analyze the Acupuncture Case Studies of the NCCAOM Exam
Confirm the answer quickly by the elimination method. Case study:
After two treatments for back pain, a patient presents for a third
session complaining of rapid breathing and wheezing that is made worse
during cold weather.
Multivitamin Supplement May Reduce Breast Cancer Recurrence
There is a great deal of controversy regarding the value of multiple vitamin supplements in cancer prevention.
A Long-Overdue Win for Oregon Medicaid Patients - and the Implications for Other States
Beginning July 1, 2016, Oregon Medicaid patients with spinal pain (cervical, thoracic, lumbar, pelvic) who are determined to be low risk based on a biopsychosocial assessment tool (STarT Back – Keele University) can receive four chiropractic visits per episode.
Adventures with the San Jiao
Those of us who have been in practice for several decades relish the way meridians and points reveal new diagnostic clues and new insights. I love to encourage my students to see this as an adventure that goes way beyond the textbooks.
Introducing the Acupuncture Today Digital Edition
In response to the changing habits of our readers, Acupuncture Today will introduce a digital edition of the publication (in addition to our print edition) beginning with the August 2016 issue.
What You Say Isn't Always What Patients Hear
A few years ago, my aunt Edna (name changed for the purpose of this story) suffered a stroke. After a short hospital stay, she was transferred to a nursing home for rehabilitation. When she arrived at the nursing home, Edna requested a private room.
Acupuncture Muscle Trigger Point and Oriental Medicine Sports Therapy
It is difficult to ascertain the internal condition of professional basketball player Lebron James during game one of the 2014 NBA finals, in which he developed debilitating muscle cramps that led to his premature removal from the game.
Acupuncture's Impact on the World
For several years, I have been hearing about the town of Rothenburg, Germany. It seemed just a dot on a map until I arrived. It is the home of the TCM Kongress which began in 1968. It has been held annually for 47 years and it has only missed one year.
Kansas Achieves Licensing Law
Kansas Governor Sam Brownback signed House Bill 2615 into law on Friday, May 13, 2016. HB2615 includes provisions for the licensure of acupuncturists in the state of Kansas.
Believe it or not, an estimated one-third of your patients have eaten some form of fast food within 24 hours of their appointment with you.
Insuring Quality Control in Herb Importation: An Interview with Wilson Lau
Wilson Lau is the vice president of Nuherbs, a Chinese herb importation company based in San Leandro, California. Before joining Nuherbs, he trained as a lawyer specializing in FDA law.
AOM Hospital-Based Practice: A Future Reality?
The natural evolution of health care on the planet is integrative health. We may have some challenges ahead, but based on my research, all indicators are pointing in a positive direction. There seems to be an evolving consciousness among our patient population that is "getting it."
Increasing the Value of Spine Care: CMS Approves New Low Back Pain Registry
The Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services has approved the Spine IQ Low Back Pain Registry as a qualified clinical data registry for the Physician Quality Reporting System (PQRS) in 2016.
How to Stay Sane During the Elections: Understanding Through the Lens of Chinese Medicine
In Chinese Medicine philosophy, everything consists of Yin and Yang. The law of polar opposites – one cannot exist without its opposite.
An Emerging Partnership Model
Maryland University of Integrative Health (MUIH) has educated integrative health and wellness practitioners for the last 40 years, originally as an acupuncture clinic and school. The institution's transformative, relationship-centered programs integrate traditional wisdom with contemporary science
Treating Hip & Groin Pain With Abdominal Release of Upper Lumbar Nerve Impingements
Have you encountered patients with groin and hip pain you can't seem to solve? You know it's not a worn-out hip; you suspect the pain is somehow connected to the spine. But somehow, you just can't help them break through.
April, 2006, Vol. 06, Issue 04
Don't Personalize the Rejections
By Jenn Sommermann, LCMT
REJECTION ... It's a topic no one likes to discuss. Unfortunately, it needs to be addressed, especially in terms of marketing. Fear of rejection probably is the number-one reason people are afraid to market themselves.It's a known fact that no one likes to be rejected. Often, my students have told me they are too shy to market themselves, but I think the underlying problem is the basic fear of rejection. Whether you are outgoing or shy, no one enjoys being turned down.
If you have faced your own rejections, I know it's less than satisfying, and even can feel awful. It's often those memories and the lingering "no's" that prevent people from successful marketing. However, fear of rejection is valid and can be overcome. Marketing is putting yourself on the line and asking for a "yes" to an invitation, to an offer, to a massage. The important thing to understand is this: There is a major difference between personal rejections of the past and the potential business rejections of the future. Don't confuse the two, and your efforts will be much easier and your confidence will not be shattered.
Before I talk about the difference between personal and business rejections and how to handle them, I want to address why some people say "no" in the first place. Remember, it's never for us to judge why someone chooses not to get a massage from us. Previous experience, fear, money, time and misinformation are some of the reasons why we might be turned down when we offer our services professionally. A bad experience could have someone turned off to massage for the rest of their lives. No amount of marketing can change that person's past experience. Hopefully, you can gain that person's trust and reintroduce them to this amazing form of health care. Maybe not, as that first experience carries much weight.
Fear is a large factor in the rejections we get as massage therapists. The list of things to fear is huge. Fear of undressing, fear of the power differential, fear of being vulnerable, body image fears, and basic fear of the unknown are just a few. Some things we can do something about by educating the potential client; others we cannot change. We can only do our best to make the potential client feel safe and trusting of us.
Money plays a factor in this business. After all, our services are to be valued - and money is one way for us to value what we do professionally. Someone might be on a tight budget and not able to afford your services. Perhaps you have a sliding scale, but the client is not comfortable mentioning their economic situation. It's up to you to bridge that gap and initiate the conversation if you choose, but money clearly doesn't have anything to do with you personally.
Time plays a role for many people, and serious time constraints can impact someone's ability to come for an appointment. When my clients don't have their calendar with them, they often have to defer making another appointment. Rather than double-book themselves, they prefer to say "no" and get back to me. I understand completely; I do the same thing. If that happens, however, ask if you can follow up with them in a week or so. Take the pressure to reschedule off of them and be the proactive one."
Information and misinformation are areas we can do something about. When I sense a potential client has been misinformed, I use it as an educational opportunity. I try to establish what the client knows about massage therapy, and educate from there. Often the misinformation is a misunderstanding or the result of assumptions.
As you can see, none of these reasons are personal in nature. It is not for us to judge what applies in our situation. We must remain objective and unattached to the outcome and continue our marketing efforts. We only can attempt to inform and convince, but at some point, the potential client needs to make their own decision, and it's out of our hands.
Now, let's look at how to make the shift so business experiences can be more productive and less debilitating. Clearly, there is a mental exercise happening in order to separate your business and personal interactions. Finding the ability and strength to ask someone if they are interested in a massage and risking the rejection is difficult for most people. If the answer is favorable, there is no problem: you booked yourself a new client and are having a good day. If the answer is less than favorable, you have two choices. You can take the rejection personally, possibly re-live old rejections, let it wear away at your self-esteem and have a bad day. Or, you can make the other choice and consider taking this particular "no" as a business rejection, nothing less, nothing more.
Remember that marketing is a numbers game. If you get a lot of rejections, there is a good chance that the "yes" you have been waiting for is right around the corner. You have to ask many potential clients before you book one client. I often say it's about planting seeds. You never know where they are going to sprout, and to that end, no marketing is wasted. You might market to one person who says "no," but they will tell someone else, who tells someone else, who calls you in a month. You never know where the roots will take.
Don't believe just because you are reading this article that rejections won't occur. They will happen, and they may or may not still be painful. The trick is to know how to handle them and not let them deter you from further attempts. When you are about to market yourself, quietly say, "This is about business and whatever the outcome, I will not take it personally. I will not let it ruin my day, and I will continue with my efforts in another way." Simple mental preparedness will go a long way.
Click here for previous articles by Jenn Sommermann, LCMT.
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