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Is It Time to Rethink Mental Illness? (Pt. 1)
Invariably, patients will ask their chiropractor about depression or various mental illnesses. Some practitioners will reflexively offer a cervical adjustment, suggest St. John's wort or contemplate a referral to a specialist.
Bill With Confidence: Learn What to Collect
Q: I am trying to understand what I may collect from my patient when there is insurance. Do I have to accept the amount allowed by the plan or may I collect up to my billed amount? Please note, I am not a member of any insurance plan.
Is the New Medicare Reporting Exemption Right for You?
What you've heard is not a rumor – there will be exemptions for providers of Medicare patients, with no penalties assessed for offices that do not do Quality Payment Program (EHR, PQRS, MACRA and MIPS) reporting.
Taking the Chiropractic Message to the Press
"There is no better place on earth to have a news event," the National Press Club boasts, and it's easy to understand why: Every year, the 108-year-old Washington, D.C.-based organization hosts countless press conferences on the hottest topics impacting America and often the world.
Women's Hormones: A Western & Eastern Perspective
Sometimes it may seem that you require a degree in medicine to understand hormones and how they function.
Raditation & Your Smartphone: Is it Worth the Risk?
If radial arteries could talk (and in my experience they can to some extent), they would say, "Step away from the smartphone." At least that is the message I am receiving loud and clear as I feel the pulses of many patients.
Universal Design: Principles & Practice
In many respects, universal design serves as the core of ergonomics. It's also a good tool to use when designing a return-to-work program for injured and/or ill patients. Let's take a closer look at universal design and why it should matter to you and your patients.
Give Yourself the Digital Advantage
When you see this article in the print version of this issue and swear you read it already, don't be alarmed: you probably did. That's because by that time, the May issue will have been available online in digital format for three weeks.
Creating Good Business Buzz
What do patients really think about working with you? Rarely do you hear the whole truth. Those who improve may be candid in their gratitude.
A Daily Strategy for Heavy-Metal Detox
In modern society, we are constantly exposed to heavy metals such as cadmium, lead and mercury. These heavy metals have no essential biochemical roles in our body, and conversely, can cause us a great deal of harm if they build up to toxic levels.
An Unexpected Diagnosis: The Result of Lacking Communication
A couple years ago I had a case that showed me the importance of open communication between health practitioners. We need to show up with less fear, and let go of our judgments so we can do better for the patient.
Eczema & Acupuncture: A Sound Solution (Part 1)
Eczema affects approximately 3.5 percent of the global population and is one of the most common skin complaints seen by dermatologists.
An Integrated Approach to Chronic Pain
Findings from a unique Medicaid pilot project in Rhode Island involving high-use Medicaid recipients from two health plans were recently presented to the state's Department of Health, demonstrating stellar outcomes with regard to medication use, ER visits, health care costs and patient satisfaction.
A Major Role in Back Pain: The Multifidus
Back pain affects roughly 80 percent of the population at one time or another and is one of the leading causes of doctor visits.
The Visual Error Scoring System: A Concussion Tool
Postural stability and oculomotor function are the most easily recognized physical indicators of neurologic motor dysfunction associated with concussions.
New Relationships, Old Trauma: AOM & Other Healing Strategies
Being in love is one the most beautiful and enjoyable experiences. Most of us are willing to pay almost any price to have that experience, and still often find it elusive or fleeting. Navigating the ups and downs of loving relationships are often challenging — even for the most psychologically balanced among us.
Why I Quit Doing House Calls
My father was a chiropractor who did house calls, so when I became a DC, I figured doing house calls was part of the job. My March article recalled my experience as a small boy, accompanying my dad while he went to patients' homes to treat them.
News in Brief
ACA Adopts New Governance Model; ACA 2017 Awards; CCA Helps Calif. DCs "Share the Love"; $1 Million to Help Advance the Profession; D'Youville Raises the Bar on Anatomy Education; ErRatum.
Clearing Blocks: A Way to Improve Cosmetic Acupuncture
As a Five Element acupuncturist who teaches facial acupuncture classes nationally, I was surprised to learn that one of the basic principles I was taught in school is unfamiliar to most acupuncturists.
January, 2006, Vol. 06, Issue 01
Forgive for Gain
By Cary Bayer
In the past, when I've forgiven someone against whom I'd been holding a grudge, my income grew, sometimes quite dramatically. In some cases, my relationships also became enriched and my health improved.This column will present a method to "complete" with someone with whom you are still incomplete, so that you can become freer and more successful.
Some years ago, a close relative of mine stopped talking to me and would return all of my letters to her children unopened. Even though I felt deeply wronged by her actions, I chose to forgive her, broke the silence, and communicated to complete the upset that precipitated our breakup. Within days, I landed the largest account I'd ever had and also signed two additional clients. It usually took six months to sign three clients; this time it took six days. I also lost seven pounds in seven days without changing my diet or workout schedule.
The forgiveness process I recommend involves writing three letters, which ultimately will lead to one "completion letter." The completion letter isn't intended to let this person off the hook; it's intended to free you of the negativity that poisons you daily, and attract the prosperity you deserve. The problem with holding anger toward another is that it's you doing the holding and you carrying the stress in your body. This upset might have happened many years earlier, but the toxic emotions still are live inside you now.
Let's suppose the target of your anger is another massage therapist who said bad things about your work, or perhaps a former client. Let's call him John. Begin the process by writing letter number one, which is not to be sent. In it, you tell John, in no uncertain terms, how you feel about all the horrible things he did or said. Tell him what a terrible lowlife he is. Let it rip; hold nothing back and don't be nice. Blame him for everything bad that's ever happened between you. Blame him for things that have happened to you that might have resulted from the damage he did. (If you have a punching bag, give it a workout, too, to augment the release of this negative energy in your body.) Remember - you're not sending this letter. Its purpose is to purge and blame, not to be rational. It's also OK to sound like a victim. By the time you've finished writing this letter, you'll feel lighter, as if you've released a great weight from your shoulders, because you have.
In letter number two, which also won't be sent, isolate the things you were angry at John about in the first letter. This time, put your attention on what you learned, or how you grew from these things that made you so angry. The great German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said it beautifully, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Obviously, whatever John did to you didn't kill you; therefore, it made you stronger. Communicate the ways in which you've become stronger, and what you learned that made you wiser as well. These things are an outgrowth or byproduct of what he did.
In the first letter, you focused on the pain; in the second letter, you focused on the lessons. This brings you to letter number three, which integrates the first two. This letter should be sent. The first letter is about your pain; the second is about your lessons. The third communicates your completion, and discusses the pain and the lessons. It should have the following four parts:
You may have to write the first (purging) letter more than once; three or more cracks at it isn't unusual. It takes movie stars several takes to get a scene right, and some of them are paid in the tens of millions of dollars.
If you think you have a third letter that honestly captures the four points described above, show it to someone with an objective point of view. I strongly recommend you have your coach, therapist, or at least a close friend look at the letter to make certain that it's ready to mail. This isn't because you're attached to John's reaction to your letter; it's because you want to insure that you're "complete" with him, and aren't communicating latent hostility.
Such letters have brought relationships virtually back from the dead. (In fact, it's fine to send this letter to a deceased person, too. Just address it to the departed care of Heaven - give him the benefit of the doubt, and don't include a return address. Let the Post Office sort it out.) Miracles have come out of such communications, principally because Nature abhors a vacuum. In other words, Spirit seeks to fill the void. One way it does that is to enrich the love with people already in your life; another way is to bring new love into your life. Sometimes even money miracles arrive as well.
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