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The Science of Stretching
In 1986, Rob DeCastella set a course record by running the Boston Marathon in 2:07:51, just 39 seconds off the world record.
Vaccines and Chiropractic: Evidence-Based Medicine or Medical Dogma?
Right or wrong, the chiropractic profession has historically been against vaccinations. However, a growing trend within the profession is seeking to reverse this position.
Building From the Bottom Up
I caught up with my dear friend Honora Wolfe, in her Colorado painting studio where, if she is not praying in Bhutan or doing charitable work in a Nepali free clinic, she spends most of her time now.
Curbing Label Overwhelm
For the average consumer, reading a food package can be overwhelming: natural, organic, non-GMO, gluten free, free range ... you get the picture.
New Medical Technologies You Need to Know
We're all familiar with how fast computers become obsolete, as well as the rapid pace of development in the field of cell phone technology. The latest smart phones are far more powerful than desktop computers were only a few years ago.
Fibromyalgia: Put the Pain in Its Place
While some fibromyalgia patients respond favorably to regular chiropractic care, others experience minimal relief. Unfortunately, many of these patients must rely on pharmacological management to relieve their constant pain.
Physical Exam 101: The Hands
I am sure you are familiar with the old adage: "When the only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, everything starts to look like a nail."
A Chinese Medicine Story: An Interview with Mazin Al-Khafaji
Mazin Al-Khafaji's work has interested me for years. In February 2014, we invited him for the second time to speak at the Southwest Symposium in Austin, Texas.
Medical Qigong for the Heart: Part III
Part 1 and Part II of this series focused on the physical aspect of the Heart and mental emotional aspects of the Heart respectively. Now, I would like to focus on the spiritual aspect of the Heart.
Finders Keepers: The Secret to Relationship-Based Marketing
Becoming a successful practitioner has less to do with what you learned in school, and more to do with your ability to find new patients and keep them!
A History Worth Telling
The popularity and the use of acupuncture for the treatment of animals in the United States is at its peak.
Coding for the Subluxation: ICD-9 vs. ICD-10
When I attended chiropractic school, I was taught that chiropractors approach health care differently than the traditional medical establishment.
Peer Points: Always Seeking To Grow
Ellen "Kiki" Geary has spent the last decade honing her craft. As a specialist in integrative holistic care, she went straight from completing her master's degree in acupuncture and chinese herbal medicine from Bastyr University to building a successful and thriving practice in the small community of Anacortes, Washington.
Are You a Bad Chiropractic Patient?
My father was a great DC. In fact, as you might expect, he was the doctor of chiropractic I measured all other doctors against. Sadly, he died at age 61 when I was in my early 30s.
Why You Should Include the Single-Leg Stance Test in Every Patient Assessment
The single-leg stance (SLS) test, also known as the single-limb stance test, unipedal stance test or one-legged stance / balance test, is often used in the geriatric population to assess static postural and balance control.
A Guide for Talking to Doctors about Acupuncture and Brain Chemistry
Before I begin any discussion of how to talk about the effects of acupuncture on brain chemistry, nervous and endocrine function, it is essential to understand just what physicians most need help with.
Immunizations by Colorado DCs: Really?
You probably didn't hear about it, but back on Nov. 21, 2013, the Board of Directors of the Colorado Chiropractic Association (CCA) adopted "immunization authority" for Colorado DCs as its No. 2 legislative goal.
By the Numbers: 3 Common Financial Mistakes With Major Consequences
Warren Buffett is on record for sharing the hidden art of becoming wealthy and making it simple enough for anyone to grasp.
Knee Pain From the Kinetic Chain
As practitioners of manual medicine, chiropractors often treat patients suffering from knee pain.
January, 2006, Vol. 06, Issue 01
Forgive for Gain
By Cary Bayer
In the past, when I've forgiven someone against whom I'd been holding a grudge, my income grew, sometimes quite dramatically. In some cases, my relationships also became enriched and my health improved.This column will present a method to "complete" with someone with whom you are still incomplete, so that you can become freer and more successful.
Some years ago, a close relative of mine stopped talking to me and would return all of my letters to her children unopened. Even though I felt deeply wronged by her actions, I chose to forgive her, broke the silence, and communicated to complete the upset that precipitated our breakup. Within days, I landed the largest account I'd ever had and also signed two additional clients. It usually took six months to sign three clients; this time it took six days. I also lost seven pounds in seven days without changing my diet or workout schedule.
The forgiveness process I recommend involves writing three letters, which ultimately will lead to one "completion letter." The completion letter isn't intended to let this person off the hook; it's intended to free you of the negativity that poisons you daily, and attract the prosperity you deserve. The problem with holding anger toward another is that it's you doing the holding and you carrying the stress in your body. This upset might have happened many years earlier, but the toxic emotions still are live inside you now.
Let's suppose the target of your anger is another massage therapist who said bad things about your work, or perhaps a former client. Let's call him John. Begin the process by writing letter number one, which is not to be sent. In it, you tell John, in no uncertain terms, how you feel about all the horrible things he did or said. Tell him what a terrible lowlife he is. Let it rip; hold nothing back and don't be nice. Blame him for everything bad that's ever happened between you. Blame him for things that have happened to you that might have resulted from the damage he did. (If you have a punching bag, give it a workout, too, to augment the release of this negative energy in your body.) Remember - you're not sending this letter. Its purpose is to purge and blame, not to be rational. It's also OK to sound like a victim. By the time you've finished writing this letter, you'll feel lighter, as if you've released a great weight from your shoulders, because you have.
In letter number two, which also won't be sent, isolate the things you were angry at John about in the first letter. This time, put your attention on what you learned, or how you grew from these things that made you so angry. The great German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said it beautifully, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Obviously, whatever John did to you didn't kill you; therefore, it made you stronger. Communicate the ways in which you've become stronger, and what you learned that made you wiser as well. These things are an outgrowth or byproduct of what he did.
In the first letter, you focused on the pain; in the second letter, you focused on the lessons. This brings you to letter number three, which integrates the first two. This letter should be sent. The first letter is about your pain; the second is about your lessons. The third communicates your completion, and discusses the pain and the lessons. It should have the following four parts:
You may have to write the first (purging) letter more than once; three or more cracks at it isn't unusual. It takes movie stars several takes to get a scene right, and some of them are paid in the tens of millions of dollars.
If you think you have a third letter that honestly captures the four points described above, show it to someone with an objective point of view. I strongly recommend you have your coach, therapist, or at least a close friend look at the letter to make certain that it's ready to mail. This isn't because you're attached to John's reaction to your letter; it's because you want to insure that you're "complete" with him, and aren't communicating latent hostility.
Such letters have brought relationships virtually back from the dead. (In fact, it's fine to send this letter to a deceased person, too. Just address it to the departed care of Heaven - give him the benefit of the doubt, and don't include a return address. Let the Post Office sort it out.) Miracles have come out of such communications, principally because Nature abhors a vacuum. In other words, Spirit seeks to fill the void. One way it does that is to enrich the love with people already in your life; another way is to bring new love into your life. Sometimes even money miracles arrive as well.
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