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Waist Circumference: A Conversation Starter
New estimates suggest more than two-thirds of Americans are either overweight or obese. The medical significance of this statistic is astounding.
Latest Cassidy Study on Stroke Risk Published
The latest study to investigate whether a unique association between chiropractic manipulation and risk of cervical artery dissection / stroke exists has yielded similar encouraging findings, with the authors noting "no excess risk of carotid artery stroke after chiropractic care" and no significant risk difference between patients receiving care from a DC or a primary care medical provider.
Gather & Grow
I recently attended a faculty seminar held by one of the acupuncture schools. There was a facilitator who led us through some very interesting experiences. The attendees were a diverse group with varying opinions.
4 Things Every DC Should Know About Levels of Care & Prevention
As health practitioners, we help people with their health problems and assist them with health promotion and disease prevention.
AOM Residency at NUNM
Imagine you're a recent acupuncture graduate, worried about making enough income as you forge your new career and seek more in-depth training in a particular treatment style.
The Large Intestine Official
The large intestine (AKA colon) is the great eliminator, or as J.R. Worsley called it, "The Drainer of the Dregs." Dregs are defined as the remnants of liquid with its sediment left in a container, or the basest, least valuable portion of anything.
VF Works / DMX Works Epilogue: Almost Two Decades Later, the Lawsuits Continue
An article in the March 8, 1999 edition of Dynamic Chiropractic examined whether then-VF Works / Nu-Best Franchising was selling its franchises illegally to doctors of chiropractic.
A Brief History of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine Doctoral Programs
A doctorate in acupuncture and Oriental medicine has been a goal of the profession since its beginnings in the late 1970s. At that time, however, the maturity of the educational institutions and the regulatory environment made it a goal with only a distant completion date.
Reader Beware: Consider the Source
The aftermath of last year's presidential elections brought a running conversation on the role played by "fake news" that was largely presented via social media.
News in Brief
The American Association of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (AAAOM) board members recently met with the Korean Customs Service, which is similar to the FDA, to discuss herbal safety and importation issues.
TCM & the Caregiving Population: Treatment Considerations & Our Vital Role
Informal caregiving is increasingly a reality for many Americans who find themselves providing unpaid care for a loved one or a family member with a long-term, terminal, or chronic illness.
Spiritual Initiation: Opening Your Higher Healing Abilities
People drawn to the field of acupuncture and Oriental Medicine tend to be those who march to the beat of a different drummer.
Paperwork Done Wrong, Done Right
I was visiting a doctor's office recently and a member of his staff brought a stack of forms to his private office and laid them on the doctor's desk. She informed him he needed to complete the forms for patients and a few third parties.
ICA Goes on the Vaccine Offensive
Have you watched the vaccination documentary, "Vaxxed: From Cover-Up to Catastrophe," by Andrew Wakefield MD, director, and Del Bigtree, producer? This is the documentary Robert DeNiro was pressured to remove from his Tribeca Film Festival.
The Acupuncture Channel System (Part 2)
The primary channels (main channels) are introduced in chapter 10 of the Ling Shu, these channels are referenced in many chapters throughout the Su Wen and the Ling Shu. The primary channels have become the main channel system used in TCM.
Helping Patients With Parkinson's Disease
Parkinson's disease (PD), a long-term degenerative disorder of the central nervous system that mainly affects motor function, has a slow onset over time.
Correcting Rib Dysfunction: Improve Patients' Pain, Posture and Breathing
As chiropractors, we tend to focus on the spine, and rightly so. Many problems our patients face can be corrected by manipulating the correct spinal level.
Chiropractic in Texas Is Under Attack
The profession of chiropractic faces an unprecedented challenge in Texas, an attack that is more aggressive, sustained and dangerous than anything previously seen. The medical lobby has launched a coordinated, multi-front assault.
Getting Unstuck: Healing From Trauma With TCM, Qigong & Movement
We all come into this world vulnerable, with seeds to grow into our strength. Some of us — through a combination of good fortune (i.e., family and culture we are born into, constitutional inheritance, or ability to learn) grow with minimal interruption from traumatic injuries and experiences.
Near-Infrared Therapy for Diabetic Neuropathy
The pain experienced by people with diabetes is a symptom of diabetic neuropathy. The impact on quality of life is significant. Pain makes walking difficult, sleep troublesome, and eventually contributes to a decrease in social interaction.
House Calls With Dad
My father was a chiropractor and he did house calls. On Wednesday nights, while my mother attended the weekly women's meeting at the Odd Fellows and Rebekahs hall in our small town, dad loaded up the portable adjusting table, fired up the Pontiac and drove off to treat a few patients in their homes. I went with him.
Treating the Lower Pelvis (Pt. 2): Midline Structures and Fascia
My previous article [October 2016 issue] outlined evaluation and treatment of pelvic issues involving the sacrotuberous ligament and the pubic symphysis. Now let's discuss two case studies that illustrate how to address additional problematic areas of the pelvis.
January, 2006, Vol. 06, Issue 01
Forgive for Gain
By Cary Bayer
In the past, when I've forgiven someone against whom I'd been holding a grudge, my income grew, sometimes quite dramatically. In some cases, my relationships also became enriched and my health improved.This column will present a method to "complete" with someone with whom you are still incomplete, so that you can become freer and more successful.
Some years ago, a close relative of mine stopped talking to me and would return all of my letters to her children unopened. Even though I felt deeply wronged by her actions, I chose to forgive her, broke the silence, and communicated to complete the upset that precipitated our breakup. Within days, I landed the largest account I'd ever had and also signed two additional clients. It usually took six months to sign three clients; this time it took six days. I also lost seven pounds in seven days without changing my diet or workout schedule.
The forgiveness process I recommend involves writing three letters, which ultimately will lead to one "completion letter." The completion letter isn't intended to let this person off the hook; it's intended to free you of the negativity that poisons you daily, and attract the prosperity you deserve. The problem with holding anger toward another is that it's you doing the holding and you carrying the stress in your body. This upset might have happened many years earlier, but the toxic emotions still are live inside you now.
Let's suppose the target of your anger is another massage therapist who said bad things about your work, or perhaps a former client. Let's call him John. Begin the process by writing letter number one, which is not to be sent. In it, you tell John, in no uncertain terms, how you feel about all the horrible things he did or said. Tell him what a terrible lowlife he is. Let it rip; hold nothing back and don't be nice. Blame him for everything bad that's ever happened between you. Blame him for things that have happened to you that might have resulted from the damage he did. (If you have a punching bag, give it a workout, too, to augment the release of this negative energy in your body.) Remember - you're not sending this letter. Its purpose is to purge and blame, not to be rational. It's also OK to sound like a victim. By the time you've finished writing this letter, you'll feel lighter, as if you've released a great weight from your shoulders, because you have.
In letter number two, which also won't be sent, isolate the things you were angry at John about in the first letter. This time, put your attention on what you learned, or how you grew from these things that made you so angry. The great German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said it beautifully, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Obviously, whatever John did to you didn't kill you; therefore, it made you stronger. Communicate the ways in which you've become stronger, and what you learned that made you wiser as well. These things are an outgrowth or byproduct of what he did.
In the first letter, you focused on the pain; in the second letter, you focused on the lessons. This brings you to letter number three, which integrates the first two. This letter should be sent. The first letter is about your pain; the second is about your lessons. The third communicates your completion, and discusses the pain and the lessons. It should have the following four parts:
You may have to write the first (purging) letter more than once; three or more cracks at it isn't unusual. It takes movie stars several takes to get a scene right, and some of them are paid in the tens of millions of dollars.
If you think you have a third letter that honestly captures the four points described above, show it to someone with an objective point of view. I strongly recommend you have your coach, therapist, or at least a close friend look at the letter to make certain that it's ready to mail. This isn't because you're attached to John's reaction to your letter; it's because you want to insure that you're "complete" with him, and aren't communicating latent hostility.
Such letters have brought relationships virtually back from the dead. (In fact, it's fine to send this letter to a deceased person, too. Just address it to the departed care of Heaven - give him the benefit of the doubt, and don't include a return address. Let the Post Office sort it out.) Miracles have come out of such communications, principally because Nature abhors a vacuum. In other words, Spirit seeks to fill the void. One way it does that is to enrich the love with people already in your life; another way is to bring new love into your life. Sometimes even money miracles arrive as well.
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