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Transparency is Key at ASA First Annual Meeting
On March 4th and 5th the American Society of Acupuncturists (ASA) held a successful first annual meeting in Albuquerque, New Mexico.
How to Find and Fix TL Nerve Impingements
The thoracolumbar junction (TLJ) and the peripheral sensory nerves that exit from it are frequent, important and rarely recognized sources of lower back, pelvic and hip pain. Let's outline a clear exam protocol for diagnosing the problem.
The IME System: A Current Public Health Risk and Solutions That Are Working
I strongly believe in the independent medical examination (IME) system. There are far too many doctors in every profession who are not following E&M protocols and never claim MMI (maximum medical improvement) has occurred for their patients, which has caused financial stress for many private and public carriers.
Constructing Our Reality: The Primary Channels and Perception, Part 1
My favorite topic of discussion within Chinese medicine is the acupuncture channel systems. First of all, each of us have them. They are part of our bodies; not something external to us. To learn about the acupuncture channels is to learn about ourselves.
Business Lesson #1: Adapt or Else
My wife and I recently enjoyed an excellent meal at a restaurant recommended by some friends. We often have concerns about restaurant recommendations, as many have been disappointing.
The Rest of the Patient Story
I've written previously about allowing a patient to tell you their story – about taking the time to listen and engage all the aspects of their case history, the injury in question, and the related issues.
Energy: For Life and For Death
Energy is a deep topic in Traditional Chinese Medicine. Qi is understood to underlie all of existence, animated or not, and the qi of the living is studied with special attention.
Recording and Appropriate Billing of Timed Physical Medicine Services
There is a common misunderstanding about timed therapy services and although you do have some knowledge of timed service documentation, based on your comment on the 8-minute rule, your understanding is correct, but incomplete.
An Interview with Amanda Shayle
JW: Can you share with us some of your history and how you became an acupuncturist? What did you do prior to becoming an acupuncturist? Where did you go to school?
Asking Patients the Right Questions
When was the last time you asked a patient a question? Maybe 30 seconds ago? But, are you asking the right questions to elicit valuable and useful information? As a healthcare provider, you've likely spent hundreds of hours learning to ask the right questions to gather critical health information from your patients.
NCCAOM Launches New Membership Organization
The National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM) recently launched a new national membership organization, the NCCAOM Academy of Diplomates.
The Power of Eccentric Exercise: Hamstring Injury Prevention and Rehab
For almost 20 years, I've worked with professional athletes who make a living by running really fast. It goes without saying that hamstring injury (HSI) prevention and rehabilitation is a big part of what they expect from a sports chiropractor.
Filling the Gap: The Role of Alternative Practitioners in a Broken Health Care System
I have been asked many times what got me into alternative medicine. My answer is simple: I want to truly help and make a difference in people's health.
Roots in the Community, Branches Far Beyond
The Jung Tao School of Classical Chinese Medicine (JTS) was founded in 1998 by Sean Christian Marshall in Sugar Grove, North Carolina, a small community near Boone in the state's westernmost mountains.
Musculoskeletal Disorders Take Center Stage
Looking for the latest on the musculoskeletal pain epidemic and the increasing premium placed on preventive strategies including chiropractic? Check out The Impact of Musculoskeletal Disorders on Americans – Opportunities for Action.
Essentials of Assessment: The Squat
The squat is a simple, fast and functional tool to evaluate patient symmetry and function. As simple and easy as it is to implement, it can yield considerable amounts of valuable, clinically relevant information.
The Value of Melatonin in Breast Cancer Prevention and Adjunctive Treatment
Although melatonin (MLT) is best known for its sleep-aid properties and as a natural remedy to prevent jet lag, extensive experimental studies suggest it possesses anticancer activity through several biological mechanisms.
News in Brief
A Moment of Silence for Dr. Stephen Press; New ACA President Elected; F4CP Offers New MemBership Benefit.
Health and Wellness Partnership
Yo San University of Traditional Chinese Medicine and The Wellness Center at the LAC + USC Historic General Hospital recently joined forces to extend care to the residents of Boyle Heights area of Los Angeles.
The Art of Listening
One of the most important clinical concepts for me was voiced by the legendary physician William Osler. "Listen to your patient, he/she is telling you the diagnosis." After treating literally thousands of patients, it can become almost second nature to quickly discover clues which reveal the underlying diagnosis.
Building Relationships and Referral Networks with Allopathic Practitioners
Dr. Doug, an orthopedist of 20 years, had heard stories from patients who tried acupuncture. While he was able to address many of their complaints effectively, some appeared to gain additional benefit when their care included TCM.
January, 2006, Vol. 06, Issue 01
Forgive for Gain
By Cary Bayer
In the past, when I've forgiven someone against whom I'd been holding a grudge, my income grew, sometimes quite dramatically. In some cases, my relationships also became enriched and my health improved.This column will present a method to "complete" with someone with whom you are still incomplete, so that you can become freer and more successful.
Some years ago, a close relative of mine stopped talking to me and would return all of my letters to her children unopened. Even though I felt deeply wronged by her actions, I chose to forgive her, broke the silence, and communicated to complete the upset that precipitated our breakup. Within days, I landed the largest account I'd ever had and also signed two additional clients. It usually took six months to sign three clients; this time it took six days. I also lost seven pounds in seven days without changing my diet or workout schedule.
The forgiveness process I recommend involves writing three letters, which ultimately will lead to one "completion letter." The completion letter isn't intended to let this person off the hook; it's intended to free you of the negativity that poisons you daily, and attract the prosperity you deserve. The problem with holding anger toward another is that it's you doing the holding and you carrying the stress in your body. This upset might have happened many years earlier, but the toxic emotions still are live inside you now.
Let's suppose the target of your anger is another massage therapist who said bad things about your work, or perhaps a former client. Let's call him John. Begin the process by writing letter number one, which is not to be sent. In it, you tell John, in no uncertain terms, how you feel about all the horrible things he did or said. Tell him what a terrible lowlife he is. Let it rip; hold nothing back and don't be nice. Blame him for everything bad that's ever happened between you. Blame him for things that have happened to you that might have resulted from the damage he did. (If you have a punching bag, give it a workout, too, to augment the release of this negative energy in your body.) Remember - you're not sending this letter. Its purpose is to purge and blame, not to be rational. It's also OK to sound like a victim. By the time you've finished writing this letter, you'll feel lighter, as if you've released a great weight from your shoulders, because you have.
In letter number two, which also won't be sent, isolate the things you were angry at John about in the first letter. This time, put your attention on what you learned, or how you grew from these things that made you so angry. The great German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said it beautifully, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Obviously, whatever John did to you didn't kill you; therefore, it made you stronger. Communicate the ways in which you've become stronger, and what you learned that made you wiser as well. These things are an outgrowth or byproduct of what he did.
In the first letter, you focused on the pain; in the second letter, you focused on the lessons. This brings you to letter number three, which integrates the first two. This letter should be sent. The first letter is about your pain; the second is about your lessons. The third communicates your completion, and discusses the pain and the lessons. It should have the following four parts:
You may have to write the first (purging) letter more than once; three or more cracks at it isn't unusual. It takes movie stars several takes to get a scene right, and some of them are paid in the tens of millions of dollars.
If you think you have a third letter that honestly captures the four points described above, show it to someone with an objective point of view. I strongly recommend you have your coach, therapist, or at least a close friend look at the letter to make certain that it's ready to mail. This isn't because you're attached to John's reaction to your letter; it's because you want to insure that you're "complete" with him, and aren't communicating latent hostility.
Such letters have brought relationships virtually back from the dead. (In fact, it's fine to send this letter to a deceased person, too. Just address it to the departed care of Heaven - give him the benefit of the doubt, and don't include a return address. Let the Post Office sort it out.) Miracles have come out of such communications, principally because Nature abhors a vacuum. In other words, Spirit seeks to fill the void. One way it does that is to enrich the love with people already in your life; another way is to bring new love into your life. Sometimes even money miracles arrive as well.
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