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Knee Pain From the Kinetic Chain
As practitioners of manual medicine, chiropractors often treat patients suffering from knee pain.
A Guide for Talking to Doctors about Acupuncture and Brain Chemistry
Before I begin any discussion of how to talk about the effects of acupuncture on brain chemistry, nervous and endocrine function, it is essential to understand just what physicians most need help with.
Peer Points: Always Seeking To Grow
Ellen "Kiki" Geary has spent the last decade honing her craft. As a specialist in integrative holistic care, she went straight from completing her master's degree in acupuncture and chinese herbal medicine from Bastyr University to building a successful and thriving practice in the small community of Anacortes, Washington.
Immunizations by Colorado DCs: Really?
You probably didn't hear about it, but back on Nov. 21, 2013, the Board of Directors of the Colorado Chiropractic Association (CCA) adopted "immunization authority" for Colorado DCs as its No. 2 legislative goal.
By the Numbers: 3 Common Financial Mistakes With Major Consequences
Warren Buffett is on record for sharing the hidden art of becoming wealthy and making it simple enough for anyone to grasp.
A History Worth Telling
The popularity and the use of acupuncture for the treatment of animals in the United States is at its peak.
Fibromyalgia: Put the Pain in Its Place
While some fibromyalgia patients respond favorably to regular chiropractic care, others experience minimal relief. Unfortunately, many of these patients must rely on pharmacological management to relieve their constant pain.
Building From the Bottom Up
I caught up with my dear friend Honora Wolfe, in her Colorado painting studio where, if she is not praying in Bhutan or doing charitable work in a Nepali free clinic, she spends most of her time now.
The Science of Stretching
In 1986, Rob DeCastella set a course record by running the Boston Marathon in 2:07:51, just 39 seconds off the world record.
New Medical Technologies You Need to Know
We're all familiar with how fast computers become obsolete, as well as the rapid pace of development in the field of cell phone technology. The latest smart phones are far more powerful than desktop computers were only a few years ago.
Are You a Bad Chiropractic Patient?
My father was a great DC. In fact, as you might expect, he was the doctor of chiropractic I measured all other doctors against. Sadly, he died at age 61 when I was in my early 30s.
Why You Should Include the Single-Leg Stance Test in Every Patient Assessment
The single-leg stance (SLS) test, also known as the single-limb stance test, unipedal stance test or one-legged stance / balance test, is often used in the geriatric population to assess static postural and balance control.
Finders Keepers: The Secret to Relationship-Based Marketing
Becoming a successful practitioner has less to do with what you learned in school, and more to do with your ability to find new patients and keep them!
Curbing Label Overwhelm
For the average consumer, reading a food package can be overwhelming: natural, organic, non-GMO, gluten free, free range ... you get the picture.
Vaccines and Chiropractic: Evidence-Based Medicine or Medical Dogma?
Right or wrong, the chiropractic profession has historically been against vaccinations. However, a growing trend within the profession is seeking to reverse this position.
Coding for the Subluxation: ICD-9 vs. ICD-10
When I attended chiropractic school, I was taught that chiropractors approach health care differently than the traditional medical establishment.
Physical Exam 101: The Hands
I am sure you are familiar with the old adage: "When the only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, everything starts to look like a nail."
Remembering Clarence Gonstead and 50 Years of the Gonstead Clinic
Dr. Clarence Selmer Gonstead (1898-1978) took chiropractic practice from back-alley bone setting to an understandable biomechanical science. His life was dedicated to clinical competency.
A Chinese Medicine Story: An Interview with Mazin Al-Khafaji
Mazin Al-Khafaji's work has interested me for years. In February 2014, we invited him for the second time to speak at the Southwest Symposium in Austin, Texas.
July, 2003, Vol. 03, Issue 07
What Did You Say?
By Perry Isenberg
Have you ever been in a conversation and felt your message didn't get across the way you wanted it to? Did it come across the wrong way? If so, you may want to see if you are sending mixed signals.
The ability to communicate can be one of the most difficult skills to acquire.The ability to communicate touches every aspect of our lives and is something we most often take for granted. There are thousands of books, tapes and educators that focus on communication skills, yet few of us take the skill seriously. (I admit I am not very good at communicating, but I am working on it!)
This article, compiled from various articles I have read on the topic, will offer suggestions on improving communication. I hope you find this information useful.
Communication experts say that words in a conversation account for only a small percentage of how people perceive you; the rest is what you don't say, including facial expressions, body language and tone of voice. Many people think that if they know what to say, they have achieved the hard part. However, in reality, knowing what to leave out delivers a clear message, supported by appropriate body language. Clear communication involves conveying your message in "short and sweet" language to avoid overload. Skilled communicators get to the point quickly by presenting " just the facts," without the fluff.
Perception is everything; what one person says may not be what another person hears. Personal beliefs may cloud what we hear and how we communicate. Being a good listener and communicator takes practice. Communication is an exchange and can become difficult if we are not skilled, or let ourselves get caught up in emotions and judgments. Some people may think they are good listeners, but, in reality, people may only hear half of what you are saying. Good communicators are good listeners; good listeners ask the right questions; The result is clear conversation. I try to avoid bad conversation habits, such as getting off the subject, confusing the listener with disjointed conversation or talking too fast.
A person who is upset might begin taking his or her anger out on me. When this happens, I try not to take it personally and have a negative reaction. Instead, I find out why the person is upset and the steps we can take to correct the situation. Most of the time, I let people "talk themselves out." They can usually communicate calmly after that. I then focus on some pertinent information so that I can recap and respond to their complaint. I might share a similar personal experience; however, I won't give direct advice. Rather, I might make gentle suggestions, especially if I think it will help the person see another perspective. I might say something like: "This helped me when I did so and so," instead of saying, "You need to do such and such." The tip here is to find common ground and rationale to keep the communication open and flowing.
When I listen, I keep a positive and open mind, and try to reserve judgment, even if I don't agree with the person's point of view. If I am not sure of his or her position, I will ask questions and repeat some points of the conversation. This tells the person that I listened, which helps diffuse the situation and adds perspective for our mutual benefit.
Of course, not all exchanges of communication are that tenuous. However If you keep a positive and open mind, do not take things personally, and stay free of judgment, you can ask the right questions to get to the real issue, even in the toughest situations. Respond only to the facts, not emotions; your body language needs to support your words.
Effective communication is an exchange and an art that needs to be practiced. Remember, clear, positive communication will get a clear, positive response for an informative beneficial conversation.
In the meantime, be healthy, be good and stay focused and motivated.
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